Some people have a hard time communicating with others because of a lack of talking by body language. Communication is based on making eye contact, but sometimes eyes can tell a story that is not necessary to know through words. When communication is limited, your person of interest can come off as someone hiding behind a veil that they don’t wish you knew about it. It can be challenging to determine the unawareness until it is too late.
If you are unsure whether you are flirting successfully with a new acquaintance, there are a few tricks that you can do to detect whether you are getting through to that particular person. Most people can communicate, but it can be hard to use that ability effectively. Body language, or body language and attraction, is the standard way of communicating for most people, but it can be tricky to read correctly.
When you talk to someone, including your date, you should lean in closer to hear what they have to say. You should also use your own words instead of relying too heavily on body language, which is why you should learn effective communication.
A simple way to determine flirting body language is to watch your date’s posture or “fits.” For example, do they lean in while you are talking? Are their arms crossed or held in front of the body? This body language tells you that the person is not paying attention to what you are saying but instead looking for another reason to look at someone else.
A more blatant sign of flirting is when you talk, and the other person becomes deliberately uncomfortably quiet. Maybe they are tired; perhaps they are just plain bored. In other words, they are acting as if they are not interested in what you have to say. If you have already paid too much attention to them, turn the conversation towards yourself. Explain that the other person has probably had a terrible day and that you would like to think about what they have meant to your life.
Whatever you do, do not studiously avoid making eye contact. It is common for people to feel more comfortable if you come closer to them instead of looking away. Communicating through body language takes more than just a wink to work correctly. Look openly at your partner, holding eye contact until they turn to look at you. It is impressive and reassuring when they relax and begin to indeed pay attention to what you have to say.
Whatever you do, be sure to let your partner know that you are not interested in getting involved with them. A prolonged stare can be embarrassing, so look at that person’s eyebrows instead of their eyes. Clenched hands look uncomfortable, so they are easier to relax with a twinkle in their eye. If you make light physical contact, such as moving your hand to brush something off his shoulder, hold that contact until it noticeably improves.
A more subtle clue that your partner is flirting with you can be detected with an occasional touch when they are talking. For instance, if you are telling your life story and they are nodding positively, then that can be a strong flirting signal. However, it could also mean that they are bored. You probably do not want to be dealing with someone who is just plain bored, so distract them with something else.
Most flirting signals are subtle, so it is essential to understand even the slightest body language signals. If your date is making eye contact with you, then make sure to smile.
